Mars vs venus.. seriously??
I woke up this morning to a stretch of unread messages on whatsap sent by a very closed friend of mine. She was expressing concerns about the possibility of her husband having an affair with another woman at his workplace as they always spent time working outstation together. For me, It was just one of those unsecured feelings you have when you are alone and horny at home and your loved ones are somewhere unreachable with someone unrelated of opposite gender over a long weekend. Lot of things going on in her freaking mind! yeah a lot!!
I'm not a Dr. Love or some kind of marriage expert whatsoever as you just need ur common sense to deal with this kind of issue. I spent almost 40 minutes listening to her worries which obviously created in her subconscious mind without any apparent evidence, One after another!! It surprised me that every time i suggested something, she would come up with some other new issues, so it was pretty much a never-ending story!! I was on the other hand cracking my head up, trying to find solutions how to make she feels better...but apparently all didn't seem to be appealing to her, yeah one after another too...
I ended up being so frustrated and distressed for not being able to help her emotionally. I also felt why did she keep continuing her rants? knowing the fact that I could not be much of a help!!?? yes she never stopped!! I was lying on my bed listening to her with my head cocked to one side, keeping my phone in place between my cheek and shoulder...she went on and on until the heat of my phone build up!
At the end of the conversation, I became so confused as she thanked me so much!! AS IF I HAVE DONE WONDERS TO HER EMOTIONAL STATE!! she even brimmed her eyes (i knew it) from her shaky voice of gratefulness!! and she went... "Thank you so much for listening to me, that's all i want" hmmm seriously??...
I Found it very amusing on how homo sapiens may differ by gender. For me as a guy, whenever i encounter problems, I have been programmed to find solutions!! whatever it takes man! but surprisingly, for the opposite gender, she just want a listener!! seriously?? haha...for heaven's sake, im still confused.. man!!
I'm not a Dr. Love or some kind of marriage expert whatsoever as you just need ur common sense to deal with this kind of issue. I spent almost 40 minutes listening to her worries which obviously created in her subconscious mind without any apparent evidence, One after another!! It surprised me that every time i suggested something, she would come up with some other new issues, so it was pretty much a never-ending story!! I was on the other hand cracking my head up, trying to find solutions how to make she feels better...but apparently all didn't seem to be appealing to her, yeah one after another too...
I ended up being so frustrated and distressed for not being able to help her emotionally. I also felt why did she keep continuing her rants? knowing the fact that I could not be much of a help!!?? yes she never stopped!! I was lying on my bed listening to her with my head cocked to one side, keeping my phone in place between my cheek and shoulder...she went on and on until the heat of my phone build up!
At the end of the conversation, I became so confused as she thanked me so much!! AS IF I HAVE DONE WONDERS TO HER EMOTIONAL STATE!! she even brimmed her eyes (i knew it) from her shaky voice of gratefulness!! and she went... "Thank you so much for listening to me, that's all i want" hmmm seriously??...
I Found it very amusing on how homo sapiens may differ by gender. For me as a guy, whenever i encounter problems, I have been programmed to find solutions!! whatever it takes man! but surprisingly, for the opposite gender, she just want a listener!! seriously?? haha...for heaven's sake, im still confused.. man!!
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Saturday, 23 August 2014
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